True Love Training

Maria Elita, Spheres Magazine - Issue 14

Why would anyone have to train for love? Isn’t love a flowing energy; a life force that ebbs its way naturally into our lives? Well, the answer to that is ‘yes’ and ‘no’. It is not a matter that true love, or what some people call soul love, isn’t a flowing force; it is more so that we can now focus our intentions on creating a beautiful soul mate relationship that is absolutely worth training for.

Think about an Olympic athlete competing in a race. They are totally aware that they are not just competing in any race; they are competing in the most prestigious race of a lifetime. Because they are aware that this is, The Big One, they have no problem with conditioning themselves to train hard so they can race at their best possible level. This too is the same for true love. You do not just want to attract any person that’ll just make do for the time being. You are training to attract the mate of all mates, the lover of all lovers, the friend of all friends, and the perfect match for you; commonly referred to by many as ‘The One’.

• When am I going to meet The One?
• What does The One look like?
• What’s the name of The One?

These are all universal questions from very normal people. As a psychic who coaches people through Spirit, when it comes to relationship questions I am advised to explore with people the reasoning for them desperately wanting a soul mate relationship in the first place, rather than divulging to them all that I see clairvoyantly straight up. Their answers are as universal as the initial questions.

• I hate being so lonely.
• I’ve never been alone and it scares me.
• I want to feel loved again.
• I’m more content in a relationship.

Many people fleet from relationship to relationship, never getting a breath in between. This usually shows me that they are running away from some aspect of themselves and fearing the alone time to confront a supposed demon. When we get a break between relationships to be on our own, this truly isn’t God punishing us, although it may feel that way, it is the miracle break blessed to us to train for a true love relationship. This is the time allocated for you to become your own best friend (if you can stay alone long enough) and have a good honest look at what you’re running away from. Maybe if you stop, you might just fall in love with you!

When people begin true love training, I ask them to write down first and foremost what it is they are willing and not willing to offer another person. I do not ask them what they want from someone else straight away. When you are aware that all of life is a mirror of your own inner self, then you understand that you can only attract who you are, including fears. For instance, if someone tells me they can’t trust anyone – guess what? They will attract a person who doesn’t trust them or are untrustworthy. If they have jealousy or insecurities, they will attract just that. Our thoughts are like magnets and this is why having this time alone is a miraculous blessing to truly work on all those old belief systems that are holding you back from being potentially blissful.

When we get to the part in the true love training where you can write down what you want to attract, it is vital to write always in the affirmative. Many people say what they don’t want, with the most regular comment being, ‘I don’t want a partner with baggage’. Guess what! You don’t have to be psychic to know that you will attract just that. So it is very important to intentionally establish an affirmation like this: ‘I deserve a loving partner in my life who is spiritually aware and courageous enough to have let go of their old emotional belongings.’  Then after each request is done, you must be able to honestly ask yourself if you too have done this and can offer it back. If the answer is ‘no’ then you automatically know that there is work for you to do.

Another important part of this whole process is believing that you truly deserve this kind of love, hence always starting each affirmation with, ‘I deserve’. Then, at the bottom of this list it is vital to affirm why you deserve a soul mate relationship at all. Is it because you have a loving heart to share, or that you don’t want to be alone? Be honest and know that you are the one wanting to manifest a miracle relationship, so always use truth. We all know that we cannot lie to Spirit.

A soul love relationship is nothing like anything you will have experienced before and to be able to accept something so beautiful in your life will require you to be able to receive it. This may seem easy but for most of us (especially healers), receiving is far more challenging than giving, hence being an important part of the training.

I believe that for many, the spiritual journey has attracted some especially testing experiences when it comes to relationships. I strongly recommend that you take some time to be grateful for each one of those previous soul growth opportunities (or ex-relationships) instead of being bitter, and bless each partner for preparing you for The One. Look at all those people as simply stepping stones who have supported your soul growth.

As well as the emotional and mental blocks for relationships, I believe it is highly important to work on raising your ‘vibraequency’ (channelled word for vibrational frequency/aura) as well. I have found that many people who have worked very spiritually hard on themselves and who are still stuck, may merely have an energetic issue locked in their field. This is why I recommend that when processing a lot of old stuff, that you find ways to raise the vibration of your aura through energy work or crystals – preferably both.

Finally I want to leave you with these quotes from the ‘Love, Sex and Relationships’ section of my book that just might help you, if you get down about being on your own for the moment.

I remind myself when I feel lonely that I am in a fulfilling relationship with a spirit who I have not met in a physical body on earth yet. Then I can relax and we chat and laugh about old times.

If you send love energetically to all your past lovers it will set you free to accept an even greater love.

All relationships started with love and understanding ALWAYS exist. Love has no beginning and no end.

It is our birthright to be loved.

Happy true love training and remember, you deserve it!

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